One of the most difficult things you’ll ever have to deal with is breaking up with someone you’ve truly loved. Regardless of whether you instigated the breakup or are on the receiving end of it, the pain can be difficult to deal with. Some people feel as though they’ve been cut adrift, with no understanding of how to find their way back to normality.
While those around you will tell you this is normal and to be expected, it can seem impossible to navigate when you’re the one experiencing it. Waiting for time to perform its fabled miracle – of healing all wounds – can leave you feeling helpless and unable to deal with the present.
If this is something you can relate to, you’re not alone. Nor, importantly, are you the first to have felt this way, and those who’ve gone before have found many coping mechanisms to make their heartbreak just a little more bearable.
Here are three that it might help for you to try.
Write a letter to your ex
After a breakup, one of the hardest things to come to terms with is that the other person will no longer be a fundamental part of our lives. Many people find there’s a lot they’d like to ask and express, and that bottling these sentiments up leaves them with unanswered questions and unresolved feelings.
If this is something you can relate to, we have a solution: sit down and write a letter to your ex. While it may feel foolish at first, giving voice to these emotions can be incredibly cathartic, and many people describe a sense of relief once they’re done.
As to what you do with the letter, that’s entirely up to you: some people choose to give it to their former partner as an act of closure; others burn it, bin it, or put it away somewhere until they feel fully ready to let go.
Seek spiritual guidance
Not everyone believes in fate or premonition, but for those who do, visiting a psychic can be comforting too, helping to outfit you with a greater sense of understanding and a renewed excitement about the future. Companies like TheCircle even allow you to do this from the comfort of your own home.
The way it works is simple: you connect with a reader online and then choose to speak with them either by phone or through an app for a free psychic chat. During your session, the psychic aims to offer clarity and guidance, inviting you to ask questions if you wish.
This can provide a real sense of release and closure for some, which is why it may be worth exploring as a slightly out-of-the-box option.
Make an appointment with a counselor
If you’re still struggling to come to terms with what’s happened, it might be wise to contact a professional. While friends can definitely provide some comfort, a breakup can often be messy and bring up a lot of emotions. If you’re really struggling, a counselor can offer additional support.
These special professionals will understand what you’re going through and should be able to outfit you with useful coping techniques while helping you to better process your breakup and the residual feelings it’s left you with.
When it comes to dealing with a difficult breakup, it’s always going to be a struggle, but you don’t have to suffer alone. Talk to those around you, and look for helpful and proactive ways to come to terms with your heartache. Most importantly, remember that everything really does get better with time.